These boring days…….

Dear love of my life,

sometimes the loneliness becomes so much and I am pressured to look for a female friend, do something fun or funny, sometimes I am tempted to go back to some old habits which I have struggled so much to fight. Sometimes I scroll through my chats and there is no one to chat, go to youtube and there is nothing interesting to watch, sometimes the only way out to get working or listening to music that calms the emotions. sometimes  I wish the days could be cut short so that I can get to be with you.

These days of self-improvement in preparation for the future are sometimes very dry. I always tell my friends “I only know how lonely I am when I am away from the console (my laptop)”. Sometimes it’s too much to bear but I convince myself its part of God’s plan and I better get used to the loneliness.

I was very tired yesterday after a very tough day, got no one to speak to, movies couldn’t calm me but sleep eventually came for me and I had sweet dreams. I am very careful when I am so tired and lonely nowadays because they have driven me to do things in the past which could have turned out differently if Christ had not intervened.  Sometimes my mind plays games with me and gives me many funny suggestions.

Many have made dangerous moves and decisions out of boredom and have ruined their lives. I know from experience that a lot of young people are involved in illicit relationships because they are unable to bear the pressure, loneliness and what they see on social media as a portrayal of happiness and perfect life. The impression has been that the hugs and cuddles provide a relief, yes, it’s proven but the question is; for how long? Like all kinds of pleasure, they are only temporal, they never truly satisfy. 

My dear, I have come to the conclusion that although these lonely days at the office working late in the night may be difficult and driving me crazy, they will eventually pay off. And yeah, it’s a battle every young man will have to fight. I have the impression that we will be traveling a lot both as a couple and as individuals. And if we do not learn how to cope and get acquainted with loneliness, imagine what will happen when I am away in another country for a few years or you are away studying or working elsewhere.

In a bid to keep our future relationship and marriage, I have decided to cope and better get used to the struggle now so that it doesn’t cost me later (Like my favorite Ravi Zacharias says, “pleasure always comes at a cost, for good pleasure, you pay now and enjoy later and for bad pleasure, you enjoy now and pay later). I choose to pay now so that we can both enjoy it later. I have a feeling you might be going through same, but I would encourage you to hold on tight and pay the bill now. 

These lonely days are an opportunity to take courses, read books and have personal time in the quiet as well as get intimate with Papa God.

God molds and shapes us in the silence before he releases us to the world, many young people do not know this and are wasting their time and energy seeking attention on social media. The media will only give you lots of touches but you will never know how it feels to be held as my good mentee, Raymond puts it.  Leverage on the loneliness to craft something great out of your life. My most productive works have been done when I felt lonely, betrayed or rejected.

A lot of people have embraced mediocrity now so doing a little extra will make you extraordinary. Strive to be that extraordinary woman, the woman of change, the woman whose kids and husband will be proud to have as a mother and spouse. My good mentor, Bernard never ceases to tell me about value and continuous improvement. continuous improvement cannot be achieved in the noise and distraction around us. Instead of complaining about the loneliness, get working on yourself.

I saw this verse on my good friend, Elorm’s status, “Our light affliction which is but for a moment works in us a far exceeding and eternal weight of glory”. 

It may be difficult but you can do it with the help of God. Be strong emotionally and physically.  Harnessing your emotions by Joyce Meyer is a book I would strongly recommend you read.

Let’s take our time and fight the battle of loneliness together. I may not know where you are or who you are, but know that we are into this fight together and I will be waiting for you. 

Let me leave you with on Obama quote I learned as far back as 2009;

“The challenges we face are real. They are serious and they are many. They will not be met easily or in a short span of time. But know this, **my dear– they will surely be met”

PS. I have got myself a copy of Myles Munroe’s Waiting and dating as Recommended by one of my mentors. 

This is a little gift for you https://youtu.be/z9i_VSP1PvM

your waiting Mr. Right

P.