WHAT IF ?

Dear loml,

I spoke about being smart in my previous letter (here), but thinking it over,  what if either of us does not find the other as smart as we want? Does that mean we can’t be together?
Are we gonna make room for each other’s flaws and help each other become better?
Wait, does it always have to be about me, me, me, and me only?

I spoke to a friend, and she taught me a lot about being open and allowing for each others’ flaws. While I know we are both putting in a lot of effort to become the best version of ourselves, we may not have it all figured out holistically instantly, and that is where we have to make room for error and backpropagate to improve (Sorry, neural networks nearly got me here..lol).

I may be flawed at a point, just as you also may, but we will sail through easily if we have the mindset to accommodate each other’s flaws and make room for growth.

Let me mention here that there is this younger friend I have been struggling to have conversations with, partly because I am far ahead of her on the educational ladder and we don’t seem to have overlapping interests too.
But then it occurred to me tonight that I could make things better by trying to learn more about her interests(you know, get into her world) or subtly encouraging and helping her to at least get to my level (I’m not bragging ) instead of letting the friendship die.

If we could do this in our relationship, I believe we will have deep, meaningful conversations and help each other grow everyday.
Truly, I can’t wait to see us grow together, hand in hand and heart in heart. They say love covers a multitude of sins, but I say, Love covers a multitude of flaws.

Honestly, I’m thinking about you as I write this.

While I am not advocating for mediocrity, I believe a little space for adjustment, will help us grow, better each other, and form the beautiful relationship I have been daydreaming about, for even clothes have ‘allowance’.

PS: I will be sharing some of the imaginary conversations I have been having with you in my head soon.

Yours truly,
P.