In The Beginning

Dear love of my life,

I know it may take years or even a decade for you to eventually become mine and eventually walk down the aisle. even though I sometimes have dreams and imaginations of our lifetime together, I do not yet know how you shall appear. you may be a friend now, an acquaintance or we are probably even yet to meet. Nevertheless, I know there is a special someone waiting somewhere for me

I sit in Volta hall this cold harmattan evening to write to you under inspiration and out of love. I have loved you even before I get to meet you.

I want, as much as God also wants, our lifetime together to be one of perpetual joy and radiant love. That is why I have taken the pain of ignoring my WhatsApp to write to you even though I do not yet know who you are or what you may look like or how our paths will eventually come to cross. you may probably not spill coffee on me like we see in the movies and I may not save or bump into you on a rainy day like in the Korean series but I believe God has His own way of getting every couple together.

Over the past few weeks, I have come across a lot of messages and conversations about relationships and marriage as if it is God drawing my attention to it. Let me take you into the Bible, in Genesis chapter one, we see ” in the beginning God“. Before everything came to being, “God Said“. what strikes me most is that God formed the woman out of the man and gave her to him, meaning God took the initiative after realizing it was not good for a man to be alone.

Dear Love of my life, I want the beginning of our love story to be God, just as He was in the beginning, He should take preeminence and call things into being in our relationship. let’s allow Him to write our love story. let’s aim towards a God-centered relationship where God Himself calls the shots and has the final say.

Our relationship should be that which draws us closer to Him and glorifies Him rather than that which steals us away from Him. I don’t want to be a thief by stealing/drawing you away from your father and maker, neither do I believe you would like to be a thief. Putting God first in our relationship will help us keep away from the forbidden trees and from piercing ourselves with many sorrows before we finally get to say I do. It will help us to have a glorious end and an expected future. (Jer 29:11).

I know the old serpent, the devil continues to live and will try to speak to you and confuse you and even myself in the voice of friends, parents, counselors, the media and sadly even the pulpit. But my dear let’s stick to His words. By doing that, we will be saving ourselves, our sweet garden, our generation and most importantly our innocence and fellowship with the father.

Throughout the Bible I see a man fighting for the one He truly loves, I see her fail several times and yet He never ceases to embrace Her and clean Her up. let’s fashion our love story this way. As a man, I will do my best as God helps me, to love, cherish and forgive you even when you have fallen (to err is human). I will learn to respect even your decision to say NO to my proposal, to love you your way in accordance with the will of God. When I say “I love you” I mean you and not just the beauty of your body, I will fight for your love even if it means having to wait for so long for you. The Bible teaches us beautiful stories of forgiveness and unconditional love, let’s build our story from these inspirations.

My friends are back, which means I will have to end abruptly. But before I leave let me share something striking I learned this evening as I went through my usual habit of reading. I saw a letter from a young couple that inspired me to start writing. I learned something from Ephesians 5:22-24 which I think will be of great help to our future relationship and marriage. I believe as much as I love you and want a beautiful relationship, you also do (Probably more than I do)

The key to ensuring a good and a model relationship is what the Apostle says in Ephesians 5:22, which applies to both the male and the female. The Apostle tells wives to submit to their husbands as they do unto the Lord. I would like to ask a little question; how can she submit to a husband, she who has not learned to submit to the Lord?. The measure of your love and submission to God will determine how you will submit to your husband (me in the not so far future). Remember the last part of the scripture (As unto the Lord).

Truth is, if you are not subject to God, you cannot be subject to me as the man(in the future) and that places our relationship on a foundation of sand. Don’t let modernization and feminism (as misconstrued by many get into your head, submit to God and be willing to submit to your man (you can start that with your dad, brothers, and male friends). Submission should be mutual and I will be also learning how to submit to you and respect you.

In my next letter to you, I will let you know what is expected of me. I promise to write to you again shortly, until then, submit to God, resist the devil and fight the pressure and the voice of society that takes away your focus from God. I have a ton to share with you and as at when they come, I will gladly pen them down.

yours

P.